Showing posts with label Joy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Joy. Show all posts

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Being Joy


"Your body cannot heal without play. Your mind cannot heal without laughter. Your soul cannot heal without joy." — Catherine Fenwick

On the Is Yoga Legal facebook page this past week or so, the focus has been on joy. Last week, I posted a question, “what does joy mean to you?” I got some interesting answers.  Joy is a “spark of curiosity and wonder.” Joy is peace in the heart along with exuberance for life while remaining present in the moment. Joy is “happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction all in one.” And the lawyer response, it is difficult to see, “but you know it when you see it.” (For the non-lawyer readers, that is a famous quote from a Supreme Court case about obscenity.)

Looking around the internet for quotes about joy, I have found a few themes. Joy is something that must be shared, and it multiplies by sharing it. We gain joy by sharing it with others. We learn about joy by learning about sorrow. Richard Wagner says, “Joy is not in things; it is in us,” and Thich Nhat Hanh reminds us, “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”

In other words, joy is a lot of things to a lot of people.

I sort of laughed when I saw the “you know it when you see it” comment. It is such a famous quote, but in so many ways, it describes this situation exactly. Joy is not something we can define. I love all the other definitions. They help with the “I know it when I see it” statement. But deep down, joy is something personal. It is something we must experience for ourselves. As Catherine Fenwick says in the quote above, “Your soul cannot heal without joy.”

Play and laughter are for the body and mind respectively. But joy is reserved for the soul. It is the deepest and most intense type of healing we give ourselves. But what is it? Is it something we have to seek out? Is it something that comes to us? Is it simply about being present?

Joy is something we must experience, but more importantly, it is something we must allow ourselves to experience. I can share in your joy, and I cam empathize with your joy, but your joy is something you need to experience for yourself. But even more than that, it may be that we also have to create it for ourselves. As Thich Nhat Hanh says, “sometimes your smile is the source of your joy.” Sometimes, we have to create the precipice for the experience of joy. He reminds us that joy is a choice we make each and every moment.  Joy is present everywhere, and we get to find it and make it our own.

It is more than knowing it when we see it. Joy is about knowing each and every moment can be joy. Sometimes we experience moments that are joyful, but how often do we simply sit and bask in being joy in its purest form? Joy can penetrate our bones. But first we have to let it into our lives. And that is when it begins to heal the soul. When we become joy and make it part of our lives, our soul brightens and heals.

Yoga, from asana to meditation, is a healing practice. It brings us closer to understanding all that happens in life, whether in our bodies, minds, or souls. And joy is part of that practice. When we learn to notice the joy of yoga, we learn to be able to share that with the world. Lawyers are not generally thought to be joyful people. Instead of joy, most days we ponder disaster and how to avert it or clean up the mess it left behind. But what if we also allowed joy to penetrate our Being and we started sharing it with clients and colleagues? That is not necessarily easy to do, but arguably it is necessary. 

When we can experience joy for ourselves, we can bring it to others and help them heal as well. Joy is definitely something we can recognize and see for ourselves, but it is also something we can create through our smiles. And the more we recognize it, the more it comes into our lives. And the more it heals. But we have to take that first step. We have to be willing to allow the joy into our lives. That seems silly to say, but how many of us hang out in sorrow because it is what we think we are supposed to experience? How many of us are willing to let that go and experience pure joy? How many of us are willing to actually be joy? If you are willing to take the step and open your Being up to joy, what sort of impact will it have on you? What sort of impact will it have on your family and friends? What sort of impact will it have on the people you serve in life? 

So, I will ask the question again – what does joy mean to you? But also, how do you bring joy into your life? How do you share it with others? Are you willing to be joy?

Namaste!

© Rebecca Stahl 2012, all rights reserved.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Why this Jew Loves Christmas

I have never been a particularly religious person. I have always, however, been fascinated by religion, spirituality, energy, etc. My most recent fascination, once again sparked by my dear brother, is crystals. The Earth has so much to teach, and today I felt its presence once again, but more on that in a moment.

As an American Jew, Christmas meant movies and Chinese food growing up. My family never got into the habit of serving meals to the poor, though I would often feed meals at my mother’s nursing homes on Christmas and/or Thanksgiving every year. Really, Christmas was just like any other day. But then I began searching, and I found that I love Christmas.

Like Thanksgiving with gratitude, the Christmas spirit permeates the air. It is a spirit of joy and togetherness, a time when old wounds can be healed, and the person at the grocery store checkout line can become your new best friend, even if only for the . . . ahem, 30 minutes you are waiting to check out because you go grocery shopping on December 24.

There is no question that consumerism has overtaken much of the Christmas spirit, but underlying it is the desire to bring joy to people. We buy gifts for our friends and family as a way to say we care. Many days, I disagree with the outcome (the consumerist culture), but not with the joy of sharing and giving. The joy on a child’s face when he gets the Superman pajamas from Grandma (my nephew yesterday) is worth every moment. The Christmas spirit is about giving - again, yesterday, a woman at a Tibetan store gave my nephew a pair of gloves because he was so patiently waiting for the rest of us (we were deciding on the perfect Tibetan Singing Bowl for my brother).

Religiously, Christmas is about the birth of the Messiah, if you believe in that. Taking that up the abstraction ladder (as my Torts professor called it), Christmas represents the birth of possibility, of saving ourselves from ourselves, from our own internal hells. To me, and I think to many others, the answer to that is compassion, kindness, working together, sharing, etc. During Christmas, these ideas come together, and we see that in the spirit of the holidays, we can find new ways to interact with each other, through kindness instead of hate, through joy instead of sorrow. I hope this spirit permeates the legal profession. What a way to change the way we do law - through a spirit of joy instead of adversary.

So Christmas has gained new meaning as I have grown up and seen it for what it is. I took a walk this morning, and the air was just full of joy and happiness. The Earth breathes easier when we are all in this spirit. We all breathe easier. My wish/hope/prayer for today is that we continue to find ways to interact like this throughout the entire year. May we all make friends in grocery stores, spread joy, and share love with one another . . . no matter your religion.

Merry Christmas to all, and I hope you still get your movie and Chinese food, if that is your tradition. I know I am still off to a movie today!

Namaste and Blessings!

© 2010 Rebecca Stahl, all rights reserved